I have heard gays/trans say this about themselves. it struck me what they mean is:

They don't like being different and want to be like everyone else. But who doesn't? Say you want to be really tall and your 5.2. Say you want to be really pretty and you are not. the list goes on. Everything else we try to get them to focus on reality except queer theory. We are born wanting to be like the rest of the people we are around or see. Sadly life does not always work that way. Accepting reality needs to be the NEW NORM.